“You should teach her how to behave.” These are the words my mom heard the most. Growing up, my family saw me as the misbehaving kid spoiled by my single parent. But no one, not even my teachers, suspected I could have ADHD. After all, ADHD was something reserved for hyperactive boys with poor grades, not a girl with a thousand ideas per minute who managed to excel academically. Little did they know, my hyperfocus and incredibly active mind could absorb anything interesting in no time—what some call an ‘ADHD superpower.’
ADHD isn’t just a boys’ issue. Girls often go undiagnosed because they are socially conditioned to be quiet and non-problematic. This makes their ADHD less visible, even though their inner battles and feelings of being misunderstood are very real.
The Struggle Behind the Scenes
As I grew older, my ADHD became harder to manage. Almost every day, I’d latch onto a new hobby, convinced it was life-changing or the start of a new career. This often led to impulse buying of courses, accessories, books, and classes—what I now recognize as the ‘ADHD tax.’
Household chores like tidying and cooking were always a nightmare. I could survive on coffee and takeout, hating the thought of washing dishes. I didn’t realize that there were others like me. Instead, I felt guilty and lazy, even though I was trying my best—my brain just wouldn’t cooperate.
The Turning Point
It wasn’t until I was approaching my 30s, after over seven years of psychodynamic therapy, that my therapist suggested, “There are aspects of your personality that might not be resolved through therapy alone. I suggest you might be on the autism spectrum.” That suggestion led me to a deep dive into research, where I discovered the close link between ADHD and autism. Finally, my life started to make sense. Receiving my ADHD diagnosis (combined type) brought immense relief and clarity.
Embracing My Role as an ADHD Coach
Realizing the challenges and stigma associated with ADHD, I decided to use my social intelligence and leadership skills to make a positive impact. I became an ADHD coach and advocate, dedicated to helping others navigate the complexities of their condition and empowering them to reach their full potential.
In my coaching sessions, I provide guidance, support, and practical strategies to help individuals overcome challenges, improve focus and organization, and build self-confidence. As an advocate and content creator, I work to raise awareness about ADHD, break down stereotypes, and promote understanding and inclusion.
You're Not Alone
What I want you to know is that we are not hopeless, and we do not have to journey through life alone. There is a way out of feeling misunderstood. I’ve been there, and I understand.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by ADHD and looking for support, I’m here to help. Contact me for a free consultation, and let’s work together to find strategies that can help you thrive. Plus, check out more articles on my blog for tips and insights on living your best life with ADHD.
Remember, with the right support and strategies, you can turn your challenges into strengths and lead a fulfilling life. Reach out today and take the first step towards understanding and embracing your unique self.